Dear Rico
I have been hanging out with Julie for several weeks now. She was a friend of a friend I met on myspace. She was dating some older married guy before I met her, and when they broke up two weeks ago, I thought I was set. But she still seems hung up on him. I mean, she is totally into me, I can tell, but nothing is happening. I know she likes me because we talk on the phone all the time, and she says she loves me and that she can’t be without me. How can I take it to the next level?
Fred
Dear Fred
I can’t say that I am sympathetic, since I have never been in your situation. However, I know of others who have been in your shoes, and I am sad to say that you are totally screwed. I will be as clear as possible: Cut your losses and don’t ever speak to her again. If she had any interest in you, something would have happened by now. Also, women who end up in crazy situations like dating older married men generally have issues. Unless you like crazy women (and I am guessing that you do) that is a huge red flag. It sounds as if she is using you as an emotional crutch. You don’t want to be the shoulder to cry on. You want to be the one that makes her cry.
Love, Rico